Sunday, December 8, 2019

Friendship / John the Baptist (2019-12-08, Advent)


[ 2019 December 8 __  2nd Sunday Advent  ● Isaiah 11:1-10  ● Psalm 72 ●  Romans 15:4-9 ● Matthew 3:1-12  ●  ]

[__01__]   It is the mainstream historical viewpoint that John the Baptist was a rebel, a rebel and outsider and troublemaker.  A mathematician or political researcher might ask – is he just too different? Does he have enough  “percentage points” of popularity to be around in the next debate? 
          Are we supposed to stay away from him?  John the Baptist is a rebel.
          Who wants to make friends with such a rebel? Who wants to be seen with such a troublemaker?
          You do. I do.

[__02__]  It is also a mainstream historical viewpoint that such strange and rebellious non-conformists also go on to great success and attract followers.
          In big technology firms, we see the wealthy Facebook CEO, Mark Zuckerberg, a Harvard dropout … and the late Steve Jobs of Apple who is also on the list of top college dropouts of all time.
          Kids, do not try this at home.
          But, yet you do, I do.

[_03_]    The prophetic rebel – John the Baptist who says “repent the kingdom of God is at hand”  was also attracting large crowds of people to the Jordan River for baptism.
          Yes, his food was non-GMO  and super-organic in a world that did not know or care what that meant, and he was not a PSE&G customer and off-the-electrical-power-grid but… “At that time, Jerusalem, all Judea, and the whole region around the Jordan were going out to him and were being baptized by him in the Jordan River as they acknowledged their sins.  (Matthew 3:5-6)

[_04_]      But, is John the Baptist popular only because he is outrageous?
          Is outrageousness the beginning of a relationship?
Yes, there are young people who have attracted the notice of their parents by, for example, having a boyfriend or girlfriend or just a friend who might not get the immediate magazine / Good Housekeeping Seal of Approval and parental seal of approval/blessing … and this “stranger” can be real controversy in the house.
          Parents, sometimes, have to walk a very fine line in what they say about a friend or fiancée to one of their children. But it does not mean that they have to remain silent about absolutely everything.
          For example, a parent might be viewed personally as outrageous – but I’d say it would be courageous – when – a parent dares to speak to, for example, an a future “in-law” and an adult child about their arrangement/choice to “live together” before marriage and to express disapproval. (This was something I observed in my family). In this case – ironically – the “boyfriend” and future in-law wanted to respond immediately to change the situation for the better… the flesh-and-blood child, not so much.  So, yes, parents have a responsibility to talk to their children about their behavior…while also respecting their own free will. It’s a fine line but an important line.

[_05_]     I bring all this up because in a book about love and Friendship, C.S. Lewis writes that “Every friendship is a sort of secession, a rebellion.”  C.S. Lewis is from England the U.K. and… while he is long since deceased..the U.K. right now knows something about rebellion and secession because the country is extracting itself from the European Community in the so-called British Exit or Brexit from a long-standing treaty/agreement from the E.U. in Europe.
          It’s a rebellion – whether the rebellion turns out to be good or bad in the end, we don’t really know yet. That’s on national and political level.

[_06_]       On a personal level, C.S. Lewis’ point, nevertheless, is that every friendship involves a “secession”…even a rebellion. (C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves, “Ch. 4 Friendship”, New York: Harper Collins, 1960,  p. 102)
          That is, every friendship involves a person finding and choosing the intrinsic beauty of another person. We do this by our own free will.
          Lewis contrasts friendship with love of members of the family whom we do not choose and whom we may even have to love against our own wishes. So, friendship invites a choice.
          And, thus, John the Baptist is calling us to friendship with God and with Jesus, a friendship that involves our personal choice, our “signing up.”

[_07_]     Can a friendship or relationships draw us away from God and his life and love?
          Yes, according to John the Baptist and this is his criticism of the Pharisees and Sadducees, a criticism, that Jesus himself will continue calling them blind guides, that their friendships not drawing them closer to God or to neighbor, but quite the contrary.
          John the Baptist, for now, simply questions why the Pharisees and Sadducees had come to him, to the Jordan River, for baptism if they only think that baptism is something superficial or momentary as a ritual.

[_08_]    John the Baptist was aware…himself that our connection to the Lord would bring a friendship that can also call us to a withdrawal, a rejection of what others may value as assets, that …
1.     Simplicity is more valuable – in Christian life than comfort. Do we not value simplicity in our friends? (Demonstrated by what he wears + eats.)
2.     Sanctity of life is more valuable than quality of life, a basic tenet of our own respect-life and pro-life viewpoint regarding the unborn child, the terminally ill, and anyone vulnerable. Do we not value friends who love us for we are …not just for what we can do for them? (John the Baptist asks us to make straight the path of God in our lives).
3.     “Love is more important than like.”  It seems we live an upside down world – as YouTube Catholic celebrity Father Mike Schmitz points out that …being liked is more important than being loved.  For example – people say this about others – “I not only love you… I like you.” It’s as though being liked is the goal. John the Baptist is a beloved figure who was loved, not always liked. Spoiler alert: next Sunday’s Gospel, he is going to be martyred. A true friend is willing to lay down his or life.

[_09_]    John the Baptist is a rebel, a non-conformist and a friend. He is making friends with you and with me and preparing us for friendship with Jesus Christ. His friendship may be REBELLIOUS …but it is not RANDOM. There is a plan.
          C.S. Lewis writes:
For a Christian, there are, strictly speaking, no chances [i.e., nothing ‘random’].  A secret Master of Ceremonies has been at work. Christ, who said to the disciples, “Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you,” can truly say to every group of Christian friends, ‘You have not chosen one antoher but I have chosen you for one another.’

     [I think this also applies to our friendships within our parish family .. for those we worship  with , serve with and come to know… and not to mention it is also a call to me in my mission and ministry as a priest…  ]

     The Friendship is not a reward for our discrimination and good taste in finding one another out. It is the instrument by which God reveals to each the beauties of all the others. 
(C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves, “Ch. 4 Friendship”, New York: Harper Collins, 1960, p. 114)     
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